We all want to get laid and we all have our sexual proclivities, and if we like something in particular we may mention it on our dating profile.But even if there’s a recognition that we, like almost every other adult human being, sometimes enjoy having our genitals touched, there’s no need to go all porno upon first introduction. Until you’ve gone actual porno in real life, leave the porno-chat alone.Funny is good, but if you are not actually funny, don’t strain anything trying to be.Straightforward and nice is infinitely better than trying to be funny and failing miserably.The beauty of Internet dating is that we all get to specify what we want.Respect that and don’t waste anyone’s time — including your own.Sure, it’s a pain to actually read through profiles and send unique messages to each person, but aren’t you here to find a date?Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué.
Sure, maybe, but the odds are slim — and since this is the Internet, even women who have been strongly socialized to be nice to cretins in bars are able to hit the delete key.
So respond to what’s in their profile and ask a question or two.
OKCupid's data shows that men receive replies to about 20-50% of their online dating messages, depending on their attractiveness — and I'm going to go out on a limb and say most would like to move that number up to 100%.
Maintain a 1:1 message ratio Do not send multiple messages.
There are lots of reasons why someone might not message you back. Now have patience, or set your sights on one of the 10,000 other single people in your area.