The Aspie’s unique way of thinking is often both refreshing and enlightening. My 20 yr old son is the MOST amazing person I've ever known. Aspergers was discovered in 1981, the same year I was born. Being married only half a year, you might want to save your post and read it again 40 years from now. I'm a mum and drive and been a carer for mum but still get negativities back at me.It has been my greatest pleasure, guiding him through life. My grand girl is amazing , I love having conversations with her ❤she always tells me exactly how she feels . Then I think you might have greater understanding of what others have shared. My children grown fine 2 are autisic and my daughter not. But when it's meeting time at school I hear nothing but negativity... I agree, my 12 year old daughter is fine with her diagnosis!! She worked really hard to overcome the obstacles that were preventing her from being able to read and when it finally clicked with her she took off running.And the general public does seem to focus on the negative stuff.For example, people on the spectrum allegedly (a) talk forever without pause about their favorite topic; (b) say things in conversation that are inappropriate, divergent or tactless; (c) respond violently to frustrating situations; (d) fail to read others’ standard body language; (e) are not good at small talk, especially intimate bantering; (f) dislike establishing eye contact; and (g) can’t do things that require social interaction …just to name a few.The only reason for that is having finally fallen apart (long long term Autism burnout) from having been forced into the life of a neurotypical since my birth.• Anonymous said… Thank God for people like him, because we surely have plenty of problems that need solved.• Anonymous said… In his heart he cares about people, wants to be a wonderful, providing husband/stepfather, and he is doing just that. My 23 yr old is funny, and loves her cats like they were her children. And different ways of solving problems.• Anonymous said…I see patterns where others see only chaos.• Anonymous said… We were married June 4th of this year, he is amazing. I'm always learning something about their view and take on the world, and their quirks. She's really good at ordering bookcases full of books. Her problem solving often comes in totally from left field, I love that about her. My husband has the benefits and I wish I were more like him in some ways.I️ tell no one, and nobody even notices, yet everyone loves my personality and says how funny I️ am to be around. I struggle in the social side of life (and therefore to get jobs) but once there I ignore all the banter in the staffroom and just get on with the job.• Anonymous said… I really hate when people stereo type and categorize based on a diagnosis. My 12 yr old often astounds me with his knowledge of odd facts and trivia he's absorbed goodness knows where. I feel like I've just scratched the surface and yet I know them the best.• Anonymous said… His Aspie traits are minimal but just enough to cause me occasional frustration and loneliness.
“I’m so tired of hearing all the negatives about Asperger’s.
My partner has Asperger's and yes it can be frustrating at times as I'm sure I can be. My partner doesn't like being bought presents and I was originally offended but why should I or others try to impose their cultural values on him? We buy each othrr gifts when we want to, we never have to. This proud Aspie can understand my students because I've been therre! But, a definitive diagnosis a few years ago, the right type of counseling and I have come to see that my husbands traits both positive and negative have changed me for the better.
ASK THE EXPERT: QI have been married 10 years and we have four children aged 9, 7, 6 and 4.
I love that I'm a Aspie and glad to finally have been diagnosed (at age 53).
I have only one purpose in calling my Aspergers a disability and that is to get the medical, mental, and financial, help I need (which I can't get if there is "nothing wrong with me"). He definitely has aspergers and was diagnosed at a young age.