Take on new work or extracurricular challenges to increase your self-esteem and your confidence that you can handle the pressures of the singles scene and are an attractive addition to it.
Snapshot of the decision-making center of a twentysomething's mind at a dinner party: "The girl sitting next to Chris is friendly, and she's a politics geek, just like me.
"The temptation to not choose is great in a world where there is a large number of options," Schwartz says.
Her life was charted for her, her own feelings and wishes irrelevant. I had plenty of enriching experiences, but I also felt by turns anxious, rejected, guilty about rejecting others, and just plain lonely.
I could choose unwisely, and there'd be no one else to blame.
Whatever the hesitation, online dating could be a good way to get to know who's out there while maintaining control and privacy.
Still, if you want to partner up, you'll have to get out eventually.