My husband and I have been married for ten years and only until recently did we learn that we weren’t truly listening and validating each other all this time. We often find ourselves immediately reacting as we naturally would.
I often start sentences with “Well, that’s just this way….” etc.
Husbands often feel so left out and need much-needed support too. Did you think back on a recent conversation and realize if there was any validation in there or not?
Validation is an opportunity to communicate that your spouse's heart and emotions are important to you, regardless of whether you agree or they make sense to you. " • "You are not being rational." • "It's nothing to get upset over.
One problem we have in this world is that people don’t know how to validate each other’s feelings.
And my husband will often have to restrain himself from giving his own opinion too when I’m relaying something.
Because of this, I’ve added books like Validation is a skill that everyone needs to learn.
If you need to work on this in your life, you’re not alone! It can take a lot of mental effort and concentration when you start to realize how you’re communicating.
Then you’ll find yourself automatically reverting to your natural ways once you have the intelligence to recognize it. First, decide to observe and notice how you communicate with your spouse.