Social activities: Picnics, paintball, bowling, movies, ice-skating, karaoke, dining, hikes, sporting events, rallies, art openings, drink and draws, yoga, and the list shall go on.
I envision a lesbian collective where we have lots of members suggesting lots of different events! There are so many interesting things going on in our region.
Art sits at the next table and takes notes on what the client does right or wrong.
Art and I confer about things I really liked or really didn’t like afterward — outside the coffeeshop, so the client doesn’t listen in — and then he discusses my impressions and his notes with the client afterward.
A significant number are from foreign countries, and are hoping to familiarize themselves with American customs.
I’ve learned from clients what it was like growing up in Iceland and the best places to check out if I want to try skydiving, and I’ve absorbed countless great restaurant, book and TV recommendations.
However, I would be expected to go on “mock dates.” The clients — mostly male, although some are female — are adults of all ages and professions looking to become better daters.
Art and other coaches help show them what to wear, how to set up appealing online dating profiles, accompany them out to nightclubs and bars and help them rehearse a coffee date with a girl. So in exchange for per session — mock dates run about half an hour — I agreed to sit and have coffee with a client who is told to behave as though he’s on a first date with me.
My main goal is just to make sure the person has fun.
I hope that my being there makes them realize that sitting across from a stranger at a table doesn’t have to be scary, even though having someone nearby taking notes on what you’re doing must be really stressful.