While for some people it might come as a relief, or be part of an amicable separation; for most the shock and distress that comes from rejection can be difficult to cope with.
This applies whether it’s a romantic relationship break-up, losing a friend, or family estrangement.
Information from the NHS here and here) Being fixated with your ex is common when a relationship ends.
Generally you would expect negative and sad feelings to reduce over time, although there is no set period in which everyone should recover from a break-up.
While you cannot protect yourself from additional pressures during a break-up, consider getting additional support for yourself if the following apply: How not to cope with a break-up Standard advice says using drugs or alcohol to numb the pain of a break-up is wrong, yet many people temporarily do this as a coping strategy.
It’s common to fixate on the past relationship – dissecting why it went ‘wrong’, or planning how to repair it, and to be preoccupied with memories of your relationship (good or bad).
You may want to do anything to get your ex back, or may accept the relationship is over but still feel upset.