I liked messages that were personal but not creepy personal, like the messages in which men would describe in gross detail how we’d live our lives together based on what they read in my profile.There’s something to be said about keeping your introductory message brief and casual.He told me it wasn’t that he minded she was overweight; he was upset by the fact that she lied to him.Some people feel posting inaccurate photos of themselves is the only way to get dates because people judge so heavily by appearance. But are those dates resulting in the relationship you were looking for? Don’t skimp on your profile: I’m just going to say it — filling out your online dating profile is a pain in the ass, especially if you have to take a long quiz beforehand to determine your personality type.
Other people like to use online dating as a buffer that allows them to pick and choose who they interact with, and that’s not always going to be you. Bottom line: It’s natural to become discouraged every once in awhile, but don’t let it get you down for too long.Read the profiles of your potential mates carefully: Just as you took a lot of time and energy to write a good profile for yourself, so did a lot of other people.And just like you, those people are trying to communicate to you and the rest of their potential mates what they bring to the relationship table.I used to think this was shallow advice, but it all comes down to honesty.One of the men I met through an online dating site thanked me for looking exactly like my photos because one woman he went on a date with ended up gaining a significant amount of weight since the photos she posted were taken.