He speaks Japanese well, and he thinks that helps a lot. He wanted to join her, so before long he found himself in the bar. From his experience in Japan, Andre guessed that she either wanted to have sex with him or date him. They had gone out a couple of times, but it didn’t take long for her to become flaky.
They were having a normal conversation when the girl suddenly grabbed him, hugged him and kissed him right on his neck. She would change plans at the last minute, and eventually she stopped contacting him.
‘I should’ve known better because I met her in a bar,’ James says. Joshua, a Kenyan man, has mixed experiences of dating in Japan.
He sometimes feels that being an African can be a disadvantage. In a club, he often meets girls who are specifically interested in African-Americans.
In Japan, people tend to rely on non-verbal cues more than the literal meaning of messages. There’s nothing wrong with short-term dating and hook-ups.
These non-verbal cues are not obvious to everybody. The problems here are the differences in expectation and the dishonesty. Do Japanese women date Indian and other South Asian guys? The easiest way to confirm this is to visit Indian restaurants in Japan.
They wanted to explore the area more, but in order to do that they had to take the ropeway. They joined the queue, even though they were a bit put off by its length. Looking back, that was just one of their numerous miscommunications. The ‘bars’ they talk about are western-style bars which are relatively rare in Japan.When he tells university girls that he is from Kenya, many of them just remark, ‘Is that in Africa? When they learn that Joshua isn’t from the states, they quickly lose interest.Once, his Tanzanian friend told him, ‘Hey, I’m meeting this girl and I’ve told her I’m from the US. Recently, I interviewed a lot of people for my book who had dated or married Japanese women. ‘All right, let’s leave,’ Andre said, and they left.Let me share with you some of the interesting stuff they told me about Japanese women! Andre, a Jamaican man, went on a trip with his Japanese girlfriend. This exchange seemed innocent enough to Andre, until a few months later when their relationship got tense. Andre, the aforementioned Jamaican guy, also realised that he tended to have bad experiences with girls he met in bars.