Did you know that women don't like it when you fall asleep in front of the TV during date night?All the real dude and girl stuff happens in private -- like when you're in the shower or they're out with their friends.Why do women always steal our sweatshirts and then pretend like we never bought the sweatshirt in the first place? You don't want to stick anyone into a little pocket of your life." Strong friendships can persevere through everything -- including the type of romantic relationship that keeps you from your best bud for weeks at a time.Having a platonic friend of the opposite sex gives you an abridged view of the mysteries and idiosyncrasies of that gender and might even let you know if you're doing something that's potentially annoying the hell out of your partner. So, when you have a friend who's been with you through thick and thin, that style of friendship becomes a how-to guide on ways to make sure the rest of your friends don't feel like they're being pushed aside.Not only can love be found everywhere -- in an idea, an experience, a lover, a friend, etc.-- but it's like compound interest: the more you have the more you get. As Emily Dickinson wrote, "The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience." The most important piece of love advice I ever got was this: "Treat yourself like a prize." The strange part is: I can no longer remember who first passed on the wisdom." I clearly remember wailing, "But, I want this one." She said, "All things happen for a reason.You will find the perfect person who loves you as much as you love him, and you'll look back on this and laugh." While I couldn't understand then that you need to love someone who loves you back, I get it now. My grandparents died before I was born and my parents are deceased and never liked anyone I dated, really. Don't marry anyone who won't help with the cat litter box when you are away, busy or when you are sick.
What simple piece of wisdom or guidance resonated with them, and why was it so meaningful?When you're dating someone, you get an abbreviated view of how his or her mind works.My female friends always help me figure out how I've accidentally offended my girlfriend when I'm feeling particularly clueless.It may sound crass, but it certainly helps being friends with someone of the opposite sex whom you're not at all attracted to.That very well could be why some of my best relationships with women worked so well.